Have you ever been cheated on? If your partner has had an affair, you know how humiliating it feels like. There may be feelings of shame, anger, and perhaps even self-blame. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal and damages your ability to trust others dramatically. To give you emotional support during this difficult time, we have collected the following cheating quotes. These quotes will not only lift you up but will also give you the courage to make a new beginning.
The victims of adultery suffer not only from being betrayed but are also confronted with many psychological problems thereafter. Most likely, they feel embarrassed about the escapade of their partner. Even more so, the self-esteem of a person who has been cheated on can be heavily affected.
“What irritated me most in that entire situation was the fact that I wasn’t feeling humiliated, or annoyed, or even fooled. Betrayal was what I felt, my heart broken not just by a guy I was in love with, but also by, as I once believed, a true friend.”
Danka V.
Unfortunately, wives and husbands who were betrayed often blame themselves for what happened. When thoughts like this arise, it is important to remind yourself that you are not responsible for the behavior of others. Consequently, you shouldn’t shift the blame from your husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or wife to yourself.
Rebuilding trust with your partner can prove to be a tremendously difficult and long process. No matter if you choose to work on the relationship or make the decision to break up, forgiveness is a central element of the healing process. Forgiving does not necessarily mean that you approve of what happened. It simply means that you forgive for the sake of your own well-being so that you can finally move on with your life. To assist you in the process of forgiving, have a look at our collection of forgiveness quotes.
101 Empowering Cheating Quotes
No matter how terribly painful being cheated on feels like, never forget that you’re not alone. Many other people have experienced what you are currently going through. Some of these people have found remarkably empowering ways to deal with the situation. The following cheating quotes are packed with uplifting thoughts and encouraging strategies. These are the birds of encouragement that lift you up and help you to move on with your life.
Here’s our selection of uplifting cheating quotes:
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“Those who cheat on their partners who are loyal to them; don’t deserve them. It is a trashy attitude to disrespect a person who is loyal in a relationship, by cheating on him or her.”
Ellen J. Barrier
2.
“The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever.”
Carroll Bryant
3.
“Virtually all women will always carry the scars and a deep sense of loss and grief from the betrayal. Time is the salve on this journey towards forgiveness and healing because it is also a process of grieving.”
Meryn G. Callander
4.
“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.”
E.A. Bucchianeri
5.
“‘It was a mistake,’ you said. But the cruel thing was, it felt like the mistake was mine, for trusting you.”
David Levithan
6.
“Laine promised herself that, as soon as, she could, she would rid herself of this house, this bed, her clothes, her jewelry – everything but the flesh she lived in. She would scrub herself clean and flee to start a new life whose first and only commandment would be: Never let thyself be lied to again.”
Stephen M. Irwin
7.
“It is better to lock up your heart with a merciless padlock than to fall in love with someone who doesn’t know what they mean to you.”
Michael Bassey Johnson
8.
“A confident and spiritual woman knows that “moving on” doesn’t mean you never loved someone. She realizes that letting go is what God needs her to do because both your happiness and hers requires taking different journeys for spiritual growth.”
Shannon L. Alder
9.
“What do you do when the one person you want comfort from the most is the one who caused your pain? How can I want so desperately for him to wrap me up in his arms but also want so much for him to leave me alone.”
Amanda Grace
10.
“Disappointments in love, even betrayals, and losses, serve the soul at the very moment they seem in life to be tragedies. The soul is partly in time and partly in eternity. We might remember the part that resides in eternity when we feel despair over the part that is in life.”
Thomas Moore
11.
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
Friedrich Nietzsche
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“Most women will do almost anything to avoid having to face these truths. Even if we yell and scream at him when we discover that he’s lied to us, once the dust settles, most of us will opt for the comforting territory of rationalization. In fact, many of us are willing to rewire our senses, short-circuit our instincts and intelligence, and accept the seductive comfort of self-delusion.”
Susan Forward
13.
“Infidelity is mentally, emotionally, and physically painful to the betrayed spouse. Be gentle with yourself as you heal.”
Dr. Karen Finn
14.
“I didn’t understand why he sabotaged our future at the time – cheating on me, again, as we were making final plans to move in together. By the time he came over to smooth talk his way out of it, I was done. No more crying. Even my tears had given up on him. I’d already moved on, his cheating was simply the key left in the mailbox.”
Rachel Thompson
15.
“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder
16.
“I could never hurt him enough to make his betrayal stop hurting. And it hurts, in every part of my body.”
Veronica Roth
17.
“The more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty. And that can become a vicious, downward cycle. Because suddenly, if everyone else is cheating, you feel a need to cheat, too.”
Stephen Covey
18.
“Seriously, if the bastards cheat on you, then they don’t deserve you anyway. If that’s a legit fear, then you probably shouldn’t be with them, to begin with.”
Kody Keplinger
19.
“There is no such thing as an affair that doesn’t mean anything.”
Amanda Robson
20.
“Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”
Brené Brown
21.
“Do you believe a man can truly love a woman and constantly betray her? Never mind physically but betray her in his mind, in the very “poetry of his soul.” Well, it’s not easy but men do it all the time.”
Mario Puzo
22.
“Never underestimate a man’s ability to make you feel guilty for his mistakes.”
Rhianna
23.
“The wine is not to blame but you are, in being unable or unwilling to discipline yourself. And even if you look at a woman and become caught up in her beauty and assent to sin, the woman is not to blame. Nothing constrains you to commit lechery but your own lecherous heart.”
Unknown
24.
“You didn’t just cheat on me; you cheated on us. You didn’t just break my heart; you broke our future.”
Steve Maraboli
25.
“I’m not really sure why. But… do you stop loving someone just because they betray you? I don’t think so. That’s what makes the betrayal hurt so much – pain, frustration, anger… and I still loved her. I still do.”
Brandon Sanderson
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“Whoever will sleep with his servant girl in brazen lechery is liked and admired for it. And if any man has the nerve to say that he is chaste and faithful to his wife and this gets known, he is ashamed to mix with other men, whose behavior is not like his, for they will mock him and despise him and say he’s not a real man; for man’s wickedness is now of such proportions that no one is considered a man unless he is overcome by lechery, while one who overcomes lechery and stays chaste is considered unmanly.”
Augustine of Hippo
27.
“They didn’t cheat because of who you are. They chose to cheat because of who they are not.”
Charles J. Orlando
28.
“She did the worst thing to me that anyone can do to anyone else. Let them believe that they’re loved and wanted and then show them that it’s all a sham.”
Agatha Christie
29.
“You asked why I couldn’t forgive you it was because you were the love of my life. And you didn’t want to be. That’s hard to let go.”
Kristan Higgins
30.
“The worst pain in the world goes beyond the physical. Even further beyond any other emotional pain one can feel. It is the betrayal of a friend.”
Heather Brewer
31.
“Trust, once lost, could not be easily found. Not in a year, perhaps not even in a lifetime.”
J.E.B. Spredemann
32.
“In every friendship hearts grow and entwine themselves together so that the two hearts seem to make only one heart with only a common thought. That is why separation is so painful; it is not so much two hearts separating, but one being torn asunder.”
Fulton J. Sheen
33.
“Some people view love and romance as a sacred bond between two individuals. Other people see love as a game, where the goal is to manipulate another individual and gain emotional power over a partner. People who view love as a game are much more likely to have multiple love interest; cheating is just another way to gain control over one’s partner.”
David Reeves
34.
“For most affairs, this eventually becomes the most fundamental of questions, the only one that matters: Do we love each other more than the lives we already have? It is the question that hovers in the background of every secret phone call, flavors every tryst with the head of possibilities of apocalypse and renewal; and it is the answer to that question, or the lack thereof, that so often dooms an affair to failure.”
Brady Udall
35.
“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.”
Sherrilyn Kenyon
36.
“Statistically speaking, there is a 65 percent chance that the love of your life is having an affair. Be very suspicious.”
Scott Dikkers
37.
“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
Haruki Murakami
38.
“Betrayal is never easy to handle and there is no right way to accept it.”
Christine Feehan
39.
“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry
40.
“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder
41.
“Don’t cheat if you don’t want to be cheated. A relationship is mutual. This is the golden rule for all great connections!”
Israelmore Ayivor
42.
“A friend of mine told a story about a date with a guy she was really excited about: He stood her up. He then called her, begging her forgiveness and giving some excuse. She told him to get lost, telling him that he only gets one shot with her, and he blew it.”
Greg Behrendt
43.
“Earthquakes just happen. Tornadoes just happen. Your tongue does not just happen to fall into some other girls mouth!”
Gemma Halliday
44.
“Cheating is the most disrespectful thing one human being can do to another. If you aren’t happy in a relationship, end it before starting another one.”
Abhishek Tiwari
45.
“People have a moral standard about what they will do and will not do. At the end of the day, someone who cheats has a lower moral standard than someone who does not. And they will cheat in other areas of life as well.”
Carl Lewis
46.
“I know I am but summer to your heart, and not the full four seasons of the year.”
Edna St. Vincent Millay
47.
“When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you’re both lying to you!”
Susan Forward
48.
“Once you’ve caught a glimpse of the cosmos through the back doors of your church, it doesn’t seem like such a big deal to suggest to a sweet young couple that they quit sleeping with other people.”
Richard Lischer
49.
“A real man doesn’t have time to cheat because that man is too busy providing all of which a good woman deserves.”
Ritu Ghatourey
50.
“When people cheat in any arena, they diminish themselves-they threaten their own self-esteem and their relationships with others by undermining the trust they have in their ability to succeed and in their ability to be true.”
Cheryl Hughes
51.
“When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.”
Sacha Guitry
52.
“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.”
Katherine Owen
53.
“Next to hurting my family, cheating on me is the worst thing someone could do.”
Robert Buckley
54.
“These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.”
David Levithan
55.
“The remedy for most marital stress is not in divorce. It is in repentance and forgiveness, insincere expressions of charity and service. It is not in separation. It is in simple integrity that leads a man and a woman to square up their shoulders and meet their obligations. It is found in the Golden Rule, a time-honored principle that should first and foremost find expression in marriage.”
Gordon B. Hinckley
56.
“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.”
William Blake
57.
“Any affair, by its very nature, is quite dysfunctional.
Rebekah Brooks
58.
“Life is about trusting your feelings and taking chances, losing and finding happiness, appreciating the memories, learning from the past, and realizing people change.”
Atul Purohit
59.
“You know that when your partner deletes their messages to a past lover after being accused of cheating, then it is likely that they were being unfaithful in some way.”
Steven Magee
60.
“There is no justification for having an affair.”
Shanola Hampton
61.
“The heart of the moral wrong of adultery is that a covenant, a sacred commitment, has been broken. The one-flesh union which set this relationship apart from all others has been torn asunder by one of the spouses and by a third party that has now entered into the oneness of the relationship.”
Dennis P. Hollinger
62.
“If you can’t be committed to another person, at least be committed to the concept of character and don’t cheat.”
Jerry Springer
63.
“Nowadays, at the other end of life, I have a rule of thumb about whether or not two people are having an affair: if you think they might be, then they definitely are.”
Julian Barnes
64.
“When a man cheats, it is said it is because he is a dog. When a woman cheats, it is said it is because her man is a dog.”
Mokokoma Mokhonoana
65.
“People are hurt in love affairs and never recover, more than a boxing match.”
George Foreman
66.
“I’ve told Billy if I ever caught him cheating, I wouldn’t kill him because I love his children and they need a dad. But I would beat him up. I know where all of his sports injuries are.”
Angelina Jolie
67.
“It was your choice to sleep with her! It didn’t just happen!”
Belinda G. Buchanan
68.
“Confession is not betrayal. What you say or do doesn’t matter; only feelings matter.”
George Orwell
69.
“Adultery is taking what belongs to someone else.”
Philo Thelos
70.
“It might sound ordinary for a woman to find out her husband’s cheating on her, but not if you’re the woman and it’s your husband.”
Melissa Bank
71.
“Why don’t you just pretend that he dropped dead? You can’t call or write to a dead man. Put a couple of candles in front of his picture and get it over with.”
Isabel Lopez
72.
When my husband had an affair with someone else I watched his eyes glaze over when we ate dinner together and I heard him singing to himself without me. He didn’t want to change anything; he liked his life. The only thing he wanted to change was me.”
Janette Winterson
73.
“Stab the body and it heals, but injure the heart and the wound lasts a lifetime.”
Mineko Iwasaki
74.
“Love is hard to find, hard to keep, and hard to forget.”
Alysha Speer
75.
“I can’t deal with someone wanting to take a relationship backward or needing space or cheating on you.”
Taylor Swift
76.
“I was steeped in denial, but my body knew.”
Suzanne Finnamore
77.
“One day you’re going to remember me and how much I loved you… then you’re gonna hate yourself for letting me go”
Drake
78.
“Maybe I was destined to forever fall in love with people I couldn’t have. Maybe there’s a whole assortment of impossible people waiting for me to find them. Waiting to make me feel the same impossibility over and over again.”
Carol Rifka Brunt
79.
“No woman could love a cheater and not pay the price for it.”
Rose Wynters
80.
“It hurts to love. It’s like giving yourself to be flayed and knowing that at any moment the other person may just walk off with your skin.”
Susan Sontag
81.
“For a relationship to flourish, it needs an affair. However, the affair needs to be with your own self… your inner soul.”
Lebo Grand
82.
“The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a greater capacity to diminish us than exposed ones. They erode our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundation.”
Cheryl Hughes
83.
“The brittle bones beneath my chest cracked, piercing my heart. It was you who breathed new life into my lungs and it was you who would later siphon the life you had given so as to feed your selfish desires”
Sonya Watson
84.
“You can run from the truth. You can run and hide from the truth. You can deny and avoid the truth. But you cannot destroy the truth. Nor can you make the lie true. You must know that love will always uncover the truth.”
Delano Johnson
85.
“Sharing pillow talk with the wrong people can make a hard bed to lie on, and will surely lead to nightmares in your relationship.”
Carlos Wallace
86.
“Betrayal is common for men with no conscience.”
Toba Beta
87.
“It is our wounds that create in us a desire to reach for miracles. The fulfillment of such miracles depends on whether we let our wounds pull us down or lift us up towards our dreams.”
Jocelyn Soriano
88.
“Let’s hope that for every time that we get hurt or break our heart, there is something somewhere being written to make up for it, to make the happiness due even bigger and laughter even merrier, for after all good things must happen to good people.”
Mansi Soni
89.
“Some people come in your life and make you believe that your life is incomplete without them. Then they leave, creating a void in your heart that may fill back with time but will never be complete.”
Anmol Rawat
90.
“There will always be a pain in ‘goodbyes’. No matter how much we seem to understand everything, it breaks our hearts to ever see anything beautiful die.”
Jocelyn Soriano
91.
“It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt.”
Tom Gates
92.
“I told my wife the truth. I told her I was seeing a psychiatrist. Then she told me the truth: that she was seeing a psychiatrist, two plumbers, and a bartender.”
Rodney Dangerfield
93.
“By then there had been other men. She’d flung herself at other closed windows. The windows never broke, but her heart, in the end, was in splinters.”
Rebecca Makkai
94.
“To be in love with someone who doesn’t love you back is your choice. But when you make it, don’t promise to make it work. Not every promises turn fruitful.”
Madhuri Tamse
95.
“It never even occurred to me that we wouldn’t make it. And it never occurred to you that we would. You were just waiting for us to go down in flames. I thought we could get through anything.”
Kristan Higgins
96.
“Sometimes you can be touched by God, but not healed. Often when this happens, he is using your pain for a greater purpose.”
Shannon L. Alder
97.
“To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person.”
Jocelyn Soriano
98.
“The end of love looks like the beginning of war”
Bangambiki Habyarimana
99.
“To make one person the center of your world is bound to end in disaster. There are too many factors outside your control.”
Alexandra Adornetto
100.
“Love is never supposed to hurt. Love is supposed to heal, to be your haven from misery, to make living worthwhile.”
Mia Ashe
101.
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
Maya Angelou
I hope you enjoyed this collection of uplifting cheating quotes. Have you ever been cheated on? Feel free to share your experiences in the comment section below.
Stay victorious!